Wednesday, October 30, 2013


Lately, it's been rough.

For instance, this post is being written out of pure procrastination from me studying for a midterm and because I, of course, have sudden sparks of inspiration during these times.

In previous posts, I talked about how I am really wearing a lot of different hats right now and how it is quite stressful (refer here). I have still been cherishing the little things and realizing why I do what I do.

However there is something I notice I do a lot of and we as a society do a lot of....

we complain.

a lot.

Whether it is sitting in traffic on a Monday morning, having a broken coffee machine (my dilemma this week), feeling too tired, being under paid, being hungry--those are just some of the daily things we complain about! We do not even realize it because of how minute they are. But these things, they add up. And we hear it daily and we see it daily! Whether it is through a text message, conversation or especially social media, it is all we seem to know how to do.

What I have realized lately is a few things:

  1. Complaining does not get you anywhere or accomplish anything
  2. It is not who I am as a generally positive person--positivity is something I value so when I complain I am not living my values
  3. Complaining requires you to exert ENERGY, negative energy mind you

Now let me highlight something, exerting this energy is exhausting. Have you ever tried a day where you did not complain and just lived happy and realizing what comes your way, so be it? It's rejuvenating. When we are positive, expressing gratitude, being active listeners and really taking time to stop worrying about what is so "bad" in our lives we feel better. I promise you.

With this post I am going to challenge you (and challenge myself!) to take one day within the next few weeks where you don't complain and think about it before you do! Ask yourself, "Is my energy best invested in what I am about to say?" I also challenge you to hold ME accountable! This is something I strive to do and I am my own worst enemy. 

And while this post is extremely ironic because I am complaining about complaining, I think it gets the point across. I promise, we will build so much more positive energy in ourselves and in the world around us this way.

Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Where Are You Going?

Today I was walking across campus and came across our weekly student organization tabling. Generally I am usually in a hurry and do not really take much time to look at the different tables and what they have to offer. However, today was different.

When walking past some of the tables, some for awareness events this month, some selling organic products, others just simply raising money, I was stopped by a religious group on campus. They were having people sign a poster that asked you a question along the lines of "Where will your path take you?". Now being a second year in graduate school, getting prepared for the next transition in my life and after having ironically registered for my job placement conference last night, THIS was a loaded question.

For a minute I had to really think...

"Where AM I going?"

I did not know the answer to that question, but I found myself responding:

"In a big city and one day with a Ph.D!"

Now this is interesting. I know I want to be in a city and I always teeter back and forth on a more advanced degree in the future, however at this moment I found myself writing it down on paper. While I am not certain of my path in the next 7 months, I am certain that I have big goals and dreams.

Lately I have been having a lot of self doubt and asking myself a lot of "What-if" questions. I have realized though, that by being more energized by my future and what is truly out there, there is so much to celebrate. I am not perfect, but there is so much about me that I need to be proud of that I do not let myself see. These are feelings that are easy for me to suppress and I have always been that way.

But as I start this journey on my "path", these are feelings that will hold me back from that big city, from that one day Ph.D, from that first job and more. I need to embrace myself and follow this path wherever it takes me on.

That organization will probably never know what that poster did for me today and tonight as I write this blog, but thank you.

My favorite band, Dave Matthews Band best put it:

"...take what you can from your dreams, make them as real as anything"- Grey Street

and this, this is something I have to do.

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