Monday, December 30, 2013

A very "non" list for 2014

As the New Year approaches lists and blogs and Buzzfeeds surface with titles like,

"23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged Before You're 23"

"Things to Let Go of in 2014"

"How to be a Good Person in 2014"

etcetera, etcetera, you get the drift.

While I find these lists and blogs, extremely thought provoking, as reading through one I started thinking to myself how my generation is so caught up on these lists.

These lists are very constraining, these authors do not know me as a person, and it just made me realize it is so important to understand ourselves.

Some lists tell you to be healthy in 2014, awesome, I'm an advocate for this, however if I decide I want to eat a whole pizza to myself every night for a month straight, that's my decision (tempting, although I would never do that.)

Other lists say go out and date multiple people and see how that plays out. What if someone does not want to date at all? Or the posts that essentially judge people for being married young, that's their choice, let them be.

Here is my advice for 2014...

Be you. 
Know your voice.
Do what you want.

These are all merely just thoughts that came to my mind recently, but throughout life and something I personally have realized lately is the importance of knowing your own voice. It is so easy to lose ourselves to society and how we have to be or someone telling you things have to be done a certain way. If you lose yourself in that process, the authenticity is gone. So be you.

Ironically enough, I saw this on the billboard outside my middle school today when I went for a run, (left there 2004, what?!)....

"Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”

So with that, happy New Year! I hope to see you all in 2014 and continue to share my thoughts in this space during that time!


Monday, December 9, 2013


Today on Facebook I had the opportunity to click on my "Year in Review" and some of the things that popped up included:

  • Getting a new Keurig (monumental moment people)
  • Meeting Lauren Conrad
  • A Wawa opening up in Tampa (it's a Jersey thing...)
  • Registering for my last semester of graduate school
  • Some status about coffee (shocker)
Beyond these less significant things, other things popped up such as:

  • Being an on-site coordinator for the AFLV LeaderShape session at UCLA
  • Starting my last "first day" of school
  • Interning at Brandeis University
  • Running two half marathons
  • Receiving a scholarship
The last thing on my "Year in Review" was one of the best experiences I've had all year and that was serving as a member of the 2013 Graduate Staff for the Association of Fraternity/Sorority Advisors Annual Meeting. 

Essentially through this experience I realized a lot about myself, how I continue to work in a team and more about my future profession. It was an incredible experience.

However, what I have learned this year and through a lot of these other experiences is what makes me happy. 

  • What makes me happy is people, being in the company of really good people and having meaningful relationships with people. These are people who are passionate about what they do, find ways to connect with one another, are generally positive and people I can laugh with. I found this with my grad staff team, my LeaderShape experience, my time in Boston, my cohort, my roommates and more! 
  • Being happy means taking care of myself. I found this through managing training for a half marathon and taking time outside of school and work to connect with friends and to do things on my own too!
  • Happiness is a cup of coffee in the morning, with a student, with a campus colleague or a new friend
  • Happiness is giving back to a cause and the community. I've been lucky enough to do this this year more, especially for St. Jude Children's Research Hospital. 
  • Happiness is family.
  • Happiness is loving yourself and being your true self through that process.

While this may be repetitive of my thankful post on Thanksgiving, I truly cannot show enough gratitude to all the people in my life who have, made this one of the happiest years and best years. 

Dave Matthews Band said it best with his song "Best of What's Around":


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